Dear Sisters,
Thank you Laurie Martin for teaching a great lesson on Precious Moments and Relationships. Here is a summary of the lesson:
The longer we live the more we realize Life is Precious and Fleeting…
We need to try to pay attention to those moments and actively enjoy, create, participate in the moments that build closeness to others and bring us nearer to God.
President Monson gave a talk entitled………. Finding Joy In The Journey …… President Monson talked about the things that matter most as we go through life and it boils down to relationships.
Relationships: the heart of our lives,,,Life is so much happier when we enjoy the relationships we are blessed with and that are a part of our lives.
Situations and stages in our lives have an impact on our relationships……we have these relationships and then we have these situation and stages that often result in feelings (Positive or Negative)
Feelings…….sometimes we let ourselves be defined by our feelings : loved, offended, hurt, angry….In general conference in his talk Desire Elder Oaks said to being with a desire for Christ like attributes and then ask God for help with our “feelings” . I believe this affects our relationships too. The Lord will refine us if we allow Him to.
He will help us ask ourselves the proper questions to view the situations that happen with an eternal perspective giving others the benefit of the doubt instead of stewing over a situation for days.
“Have you ever noticed that people can usually find whatever they are looking for? Look hard enough and you can discover both good and bad in almost anyone and anything. “
Looking For The Good - President Uchtdorf
In the quote from President Uchtdorf’s talk, is basically “what we look for we find”…. So if 95% of relationship is good don’t obsess on the 5% that is bugging you.
Give others the benefit of the doubt……..when we consider them as people with similar thoughts, feelings, insecurities, needs, like ourselves…..we are able to think about the situations differently.
We enjoy the relationships in our lives more when we are secure enough in ourselves to know we are of worth and when we believe we are strong enough to reach out to others, to forgive, to overlook, to help.
We are not mortal beings having spiritual experiences but spiritual beings having mortal experiences….
….we don’t have to “prove” or “defend” how wonderful we are …….because we are automatically of great worth…….Every sister in this room has wonderful qualities and gifts…..I could take the next hour and go around the room telling you the wonderfulness I see….even in those of you I don’t know well. If you are brand new……I can still see great 1st impression wonderfulness….we also each have quirks about us too….hopefully we can overlook each other’s quirks and focus on the wonderfulness. Our wonderfulness is not diminished by how others treat us!!
…..are you living in harmony with your values and the things you have learned in life? …..self-esteem comes from doing what you believe to be right or important…….no one else can give it to you…….
Look for the good in your relationships and enjoy the moments that makeup eternity!
“Diligently doing the things that matter most will lead us to the Savior of the world”… Of Things That Matter Most President Uchtdorf
